This is where all my energy is going right now: I’m hard at work researching my book, interviewing triads and people who have been in a triad that has broken up; I’m reading all the books ever written about polyamory and love triangles; and I’m very busy connecting with triads and polyamorous folk on Instagram and Twitter. Continue reading
If you are in a triad, or have been in the past, I would really love it if you would take the 15 minutes or so it’ll take you to fill out my survey. Continue reading
On Halloween night, I was thinking about random acts of weirdness and how they can brighten someone’s day. Of course what got me thinking about this was when I realized that using just my #sexyghost costume, I could really either freak people out or make them laugh by simply standing very still — say, under a streetlight, or in a dark corner of our yard. How much fun would it be to wear the costume around dusk and stand in the woods just off a bike path somewhere? I mean, as long as I didn’t get beat up.
This got me thinking of other random acts of weirdness — something that used to be one of my favourite hobbies. My best friend and I used to do things like rollerskate around the neighbourhood in angel wings (we were 18, not 8), and we had grand plans of setting up a fake Christmas tree in the park in the middle of May. I also like to buy flowers and hand them out to strangers, paint rocks and leave them in unexpected places, or create treasure hunts in the library for strangers. I miss doing these things! Continue reading
Well, it’s mid-September, which means we unschooly types are starting to trickle back into what we think of as our school/unschool year. Of course I’m not technically unschooling as Neko is in a blended program, and also given that we do some schooly stuff most days, but we still fit the personality profile (you know — sleeping in, avoiding bookwork, having not the most academic goals in general).
Neko started back to her blended program last week and we had our facilitator meeting last Monday, so it seemed like a good week for us to start back at our homeschooling as well. We’ve been doing a tiny bit of review since late August but we have mostly been lazy and sleepy.
I have, however, been thinking a lot about what I’d like to focus on this year. The major factors in this planning have been the fact that we are putting Neko into a public arts school next year, so I need to make sure she is up to speed on her core subjects; and also that I want to make sure I’ve done as much as I can during my intensive time with her to instill the core values that matter to us as a family: gratitude, service, self-sufficiency, appreciation of art and connection to nature, specifically. Continue reading
Well, at least when I was done I had a big breakthrough on the rewrite of my novel, so I’m excited about that. The thing about running (or exercise in general) is that it’s necessary for inspiration and brain function, and yet tonight it used up my writing time. How does one find time to run *and* write?
I’ve been so busy with love and life and parenting and career and houses and moving and running and life for so long and now here I am, settled, and it’s damn scary because I could write. It’s so quiet and I have time and space and ideas and money and even a god damn office and that means I have no excuse not to write and that makes me want to just go watch Friends on Netflix and fold laundry because there is so much laundry to fold that it would give me an excuse not to try to achieve what I hope to and quite possibly fail at it. Continue reading
Is there a type of arrested development that is specific to mothers, or at least stay-at-home parents?
Because I think I have that. Continue reading
I’ve been on the fence about cursive for years. Well, you know, since she started “grade one” (quotes to accommodate unschooling). Do kids need cursive? I’ve read lots of conflicting views (yes, this is what homeschooling parents do – read conflicting views on the merits of cursive writing). It seems that it boils down to, on one side: why bother; why fight kids to make them learn something tedious when it’s not necessary; it’s outdated and who cares anyway? vs. Scientific studies whose findings suggest that learning and writing in cursive is good for fine motor skills and can help a child to have better reading and spelling skills (this article sums up the arguments, both scientific and otherwise). Continue reading
It’s a thing I do. I am REALLY good at making planning lists. I make them all the time – I plan how and when I’m going to run, do yoga, write; I make meal plans, I make lists of things I’d like to do and places I’d like to visit. And then instead of doing and seeing and making and writing all those things, I make another list.
So here is a list of real life stories I’d like to put on paper. I had insomnia last week and all these great stories were running through my head so I made a list. Would you want to read any of these? Continue reading